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The Perfect SexuaL Position
We'll be honest with you: When the coital alignment technique (CAT) hit the sex-research scene three years ago, we didn't pay too much attention. It seemed too, well, mechanical. But when our collective eye caught a recent study showing that when men and women make love using CAT, 75 percent of the women are orgasmic during intercourse, we did a double-take. Typically only one-third of women climax during penetration or thrusting. Plus, 90 percent of the female participants of said study reported that CAT intensified the strength of their orgasms and 60 percent said the technique boosted their libido. And, when we talked to the CAT experts, we learned that men reap direct benefits too: The vast majority of men who use the technique on a regular basis experience extraordinarily sensuous orgasms. We consulted Edward W. Eichel, M.A., a psychotherapist in private practice who originated the CAT technique, for his best step-by-step advice.

Step 1: Assume the missionary position. After foreplay, partners begin CAT in the standard missionary position. You should be on top, resting your weight on your elbows, and her knees should be slightly bent and raised. Go ahead and penetrate, but don't thrust. Step 2: Sidle up. Now it gets a little tricky. You're going to slide forward, so that you're "riding high" with your pelvis slightly above hers. The base of your penis should also be pushing against her mons veneris, the little mound from which her pubic hair grows. "The base of the penis is an erogenous zone in its own right," says Eichel; "constant pressure on it will provide a wonderful prostatic sensation, a soft melting feeling." Step 3: Relax your upper body. Take your weight off your elbows and lower your chest onto her torso. It may feel heavy to her at first, but she'll get used to it. (If you're much heavier than your partner, the technique may work better with you on the bottom.) Your head and shoulders should veer to either her left or her right, whichever is most comfortable for both of you. Be sure to keep all weight off your elbows and release any tension you may be holding in your shoulders and/or neck: Such tension will impair the pelvic mobility that you're about to need. Her legs should wrap around your thighs, her ankles resting on your calves. Her knees need to be as low as possible to maintain the pelvic mobility that she is about to need. Step 4: She leads. Your partner should tip her pelvis gently, but firmly enough so you and she feel definite genital contact. You should move upward only slightly, just as a response to her movement. Be sure you're not moving further or faster than you're being pushed. Step 5: You respond. Now it's your turn to push: Apply only enough force to tip down her pelvis very slightly. She should exert a moderate resistance, allowing her pelvis to move backward only until the small of her back is flat on the bed. Step 6: Swing low. Remember those old-fashioned swings in which a couple sat facing each other? That's what you're going to do: a gentle back and forth, back and forth. You should direct your movement around the pleasure you feel at the base of your penis: As you are pushed down, you should feel a warm, sensuous feeling radiating from that point. Your partner should focus on directing her swing so that she feels pressure on her clitoris. Step 7: Let it be. Here's what may be the toughest part for many men: Don't "grab" for your orgasm. As you feel yourself approaching climax, keep focused and maintain your rhythm. "Let it come to you rather than chasing it," advises Eichel. According to the first-person accounts of CAT experiences we read, the "letting it just happen" approach to orgasm yielded very powerful results for both men and women.
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